people always say the answers will come to you when you are least expecting it – that when you stop looking, whatever it is you need to learn
will find you.
last week lila invited me to fairy school + i was given one of those unexpected answers…
“fairy school” – i learned is a time where ashley tells lila stories in order to teach her life lessons.
as i watched ashley + lila have their daily fairy lesson. eli crawling around the room entertaining himself with the toys scattered about; as these two spoke to one another in their special way, teaching each other — i also had a lesson. i learned that i was there to photograph their family life from lila + eli’s eyes and heart because
that is what resonates with my core.
i am not a mother
i am a daughter, a sister
i am a free spirit
i am a kid at heart
i learned in fairy school that everything that i have been trying to make sense of is that i want to photograph families in a way that the children can remember their family life authentically as it is and to show their parents how their kids love and adore them, just as they are
as a photographer i want to give YOU permission to let go and to feel as your kids feel. i want you to allow your kids to be themselves. i say that with all my heart. i want you to unlearn everything you have imagined a beautiful family photograph to be and to think about how your children will remember their life as it is now.
because for me that is what matters, as my sisters and i have a group text going in which we exchange with one another our old family photographs, we go back and forth poking fun at one another – and i find myself laughing out loud every time. they are not the “pretty” family photographs, they are so undone as inevitably, one of us is bawling our eyes out and we are each in our own beautiful little world – hannah with her messy hair, emma with that attitude, abby with her high waist fashion, jack as the ‘perfect” clueless baby boy we all adored and me as the controlling awkward older sister…and for our crazy family… that was (and IS) real life, and as we pass along those photographs to one another, i feel our life as it was
growing up - i’m reminded of us.
that is what i want for you
that is what i want to share
the beauty in the mess
because its not a mess after all
it is evidence of fostering curiosity, play, imagination, family…it is evidence of family love
and when you look around the room you see it in all the details of home
lila, thank you for taking me to fairy school because as i sat back and observed you learn, i found the greatest lesson of them all.
i’m here to see it through your eyes